Living With Love
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
If you’ve never picked up Marianne Williamson’s book, A Return To Love, I would caution you against reading it. You might have to give up small opinions of yourself. You might have to step out of the shadows and into the light. You might have to own your glory. You might have to let go of everything you’ve ever told yourself about yourself that is negative or bad.
I’ve read literally hundreds of ‘self help’ books over the years (at one time, it was not uncommon for me to be reading 5 at a time!) but one that continues to stand out for me is this one. It was a game changer. Marianne’s writing style is so poetic, yet down-to-earth and so cut-throat (in the kindest possible way) that literally left me speechless some days.
She writes this book based on the principles in A Course In Miracles which was a book channeled by a University professor who was advised to clean up her department, or else. A Course In Miracles was the dynamo that followed.
The above quote is so profound and speaks to our hearts in a way that opens us. We’ve all shrunk to be accepted by others. In fact, I think this is why I’m only 5’3. I did it so often for so long! We’ve all played small in order to not be hated by those around us. Why do we do this? Marianne talks about the bigger of our fears being our light, not our inadequacy. As human beings we ARE inadequate. But as human beings with a SOUL and a PURPOSE we are beyond adequate. This is why, at some point, we need to drop our human facades; we need to let go of our human belief systems; and we need to return to who and what we really are.
So how do we do this? I mention above about identifying with our humanity as a soul with a purpose. I’m not talking about your typical ‘purpose.’ In the Western world, we get so caught up in our purpose; what we’re meant to ‘do for a living.’ This is really what we’ve grown to believe a purpose is, isn’t it? A career. If this is true, where does that leave the 5 year old, and the 17 year old, and the 60 year old and the 80 year old? This is insane that we think our purpose in life is tied to a career we’ll eventually retire from by the time we’re middle-aged.
I dare say that our purpose here (note the collective, our) is something entirely different. In fact, it has nothing to do with the physical world at all. It has everything to do with love. Where is your heart at any given time? How does your heart move you throughout your day? Do you see through the eyes of love? Do you hear through the eyes of love? Do you speak through the eyes of love? Do you think with the mind of love? If you can answer yes to just one of these questions, than you’re on your way. If you can answer yes to all of these questions, than stop reading this blog and go write your own one!
Some mornings (regretfully, only some) I wake up and ask God to have me see and hear and think and speak with only love. It changes my day. Every. Time. I still might get frustrated. I still might lose my patience. I still might have petty thoughts. But in the instant that I watch myself doing these things, I love myself. Because I know that in those moments, I’ve only forgotten. I’ve forgotten who I really am and what I’m really capable of. How can you crucify yourself or another for that?
I have a challenge for those of your reading this post. Write down on a piece of paper, “Today I will see with love, hear with love, speak with love and think with love.” Put this piece of paper somewhere where you’ll see it soon after you wake up in the morning. My bathroom mirror is often my sticky board. Simply read this and take a moment to drink it in every morning for 21 days. See what happens. Note what changes in your world, because something will. Note how you begin to feel about yourself and those who you feel have infringed upon you. Note how your body feels. Note any different and surprising decisions you make. Note any “a-ha!” moments.
We’re living in a rapidly changing world. Those who are still primarily stuck in ego are going to start feeling rather uncomfortable. The discomfort is coming from a Universal nudge telling you, “this is no longer working. It never worked to begin with but now it’s really not working.” There is not one shred of benefit to you to continue to think critical, insulting, judgmental thoughts…about yourself or anyone else. It only closes down your heart, makes you sick and widens the gap between you and fulfillment.
I read somewhere that this world only requires 11% of its population to become enlightened in order to change the WHOLE world. Start with yourself. Don’t wait for your spouse or your friends or your kids to do it. Begin always with yourself.
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